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Originally Posted by Angela  If Georgia overtly attacks your competence and you are injured by that attack, boldly look for your own inner truth: how is Georgia correct? In what area am I incompetent? Maybe I'm incompetent in the literal sense she's talking about, or maybe my incompetence is a bit deeper -- maybe I haven't been competent in my communication or social skills or self-promotion, etc. When you have found incompetence (and if you look, you can), nod and thank Georgia. If you really want to take on mastery in a big way, ask Georgia to help you! "Hey, Georgia, I hadn't looked at it from your perspective; thanks for sharing that. How would you handle this situation?" She'll be disarmed -- she will no longer have a weapon with which to hurt you. You will have transformed an enemy into an ally.
If you just can't get your ego around that, simply smile and thank her for her input and tell her you'll take it under advisement. |
If she is, you can't just say thanks. They'll laugh even more. You have to be direct. Cowards make fun of people. Call them on it and they'll fold. As long as, you don't let your emotions control you, anything they say will be weak and meaningless.
Angela is right on many counts. She's always got great advice. If she's acting like a bully, however, I believe you have to be direct. If it continues, ask her to meet you for coffee. If she refuses, go to your boss. You shouldn't have to put up with grade school mentalities like this.