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Originally Posted by missing  I wouldn't be so harsh. Yea, he wanted to get off. He wasn't hiding it either, even though he didn't come out and say straight what he wanted. It was rather obvious. I mean the guy came to him and said "nice shoes, wanna ♥♥♥♥♥" would that make the OP feel any better? I mean how did the older guy hurt the OP? He "forced" him to have a nice conversation? Yea maybe it occurred with less than honorable intentions but so what. This is just how some of the gay community works; it's a lot more straight forward than what men deal with when approaching women. Guys scope out someone with their "gaydar" and move in. Sometimes the gaydar is wrong. It happens. It's happened to me before; a simple "no thanks I'm just not into that" generally gets them off your back. Human's should be allowed to initiate sexual encounters with other humans, even if they are total strangers. If the person makes clear they are not interested, and the initiation continues, then it starts to become an issue. Like the female poster above stated, women deal with this all the time. They manage; so can a guy. |
I am with you on that one.
The OP is an adult and not a minor as I initially asumed. I have been hit on by guys, and, yes, it feels weird first. But to be honest, "having no problem with someone being gay" means in my eyes to allow them to express their sexuality as long as this is lawful. If an attractive woman hadhit on the OP in this way, he
may have been flattered. And, I agree with sbdiane, this is what women go through all the time. And if you have had the experience you can, as an adult, unmistakingly communicate that you are not interested. This applies to women and men. I also think that you can still be
nice, if you maintain a fine line of assertive separation. One gay colleague I spoke to about in the past, said "simply do not look them into the eyes for too long and you'll be fine". And this is true for men and for women.
As a guideline, just treat them like you would be treated by a woman who likes you but is not interested sexually in you.And then be a little bit more obvious, because we guys are a little bit more obtuse than women, aren't we...
