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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  1) Sometimes I feel invisible. I notice people all around me making connections, flirting, talking to strangers. And most of the time I feel very left out of that scene. I feel like I'm invisible...on the outside of reality more as an observer than an active participant. When I do try to interact with people it sometimes seems like I'm a nuisance to them. What's that about? |
I know the feeling of being invisible, it sucks. I only became more visible when I started to get clear on my purpose in life and generally became more in touch with my own wishes, preferences and desires (I had suppressed them for so long, that I had forgotten to listen to myself). So I had to become more clear about myself first, then others started to notice me.
It's a long shot, but could this be the same for you? Do you have goals and a purpose? Do you generally know what you want and go for it? Are you generally very aware of your emotions or do you feel kinda flat most of the time?
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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity} 2) How do you know whether you're making the right decision? I'm unemployed at the moment -- and not in a "good way" -- and I've got a job offer. The only problem is that it's at a Christian school. I feel it would be dishonest to take it considering I'm not deeply religious anymore (one of the requirements of the job), but at the same time I could do the job with my hands tied behind my back. I have the qualifications and I really need the money. |
Would it feel like cheating to accept the job offer? (Do you see the link with point #3?)
By the way, I think VelociRaptor and Seeker5 gave a good suggestion. Just throw your cards on the table and let them decide.
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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity} 3) How do you separate what you see happening all around you from your own life? I observe a lot of people who are dishonest in their relationships -- lots of "cheating" -- and it's sometimes a struggle not to compare and wonder if maybe I've had the wool pulled over my eyes as well. Not sure if that makes sense. I'm not really scared of being in the same position because I know that whatever happens I'm safe and that I can learn and grow in all situations, but always feel compelled to compare and it's becoming a problem. |
Why do you want to separate it from your life? That only leads to more seperation (your point #1). I would advise Steve's approach of seeing the cheating as a reflection of your own consciousness. So ask yourself: What is it that bothers me about seeing other people cheating and what would I like to be different about myself?