It sounds like you found a wonderful mate - who doesn't want to be your mate in the same you want him to be.
In many ways, he's your man. You want him to commit to you by moving in (maybe marriage?) but he doesn't want to commit to you in that way. In many ways, he's already committed to you, but not in the way that's important to you (moving in).
So my question to you is, why is moving in together so important to you? Why is not the current commitment enough?
And if it's true that the current situation is not enough, are you willing to wait around being sad and disappointed, until he comes around, if he even does at all?
Maybe you are in this relationship to learn that, even though the love is there, if the action doesn't follow, you should learn to cherish and remember the love, but let him go gently, with love.
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