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Originally Posted by somethingsmissing  When it comes to me mentioning things I want to do he always seems to put these doubts in my head. I want to take violin lessons, he says "well then we really wont see each other." |
It seems you're giving your power away to him here. If you need him to agree with your choices it's going to be difficult to make choices.
Imagine you tell him you want to take violin lessons, and he says clearly that he doesn't like it. Would you do it ?
If you have full control of your choices, you could be able to tell him in a calm way that you're going to do it anyway, and that if he doesn't like it, you can speak about it but that you're clear you want to do it (well if that's your choice).
Sometimes, people disagree first, and when they see it happens well, they change their mind. Allow your partner to have his own reaction, but don't change because of this reaction. This applies to any relationship I think.
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"Everything that you need to know lies in the eyes. If you can look into someones eyes and see yourself, you have just met the perosn that will forever affect your life..."
I believe in soulmates, and I can say I don't think he is mine...and that breaks my heart, because I thought at one time it may have been true.
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This seems pretty clear. I know it's very difficult to break up a relationship, so I don't want to tell you I know how to do. If you want to break up, there is absolutely nothing wrong in doing it. I wish you all the best and give you my support in whatever choice you make.