Please forgive me if I sound condescending. I do not mean to be. I am a few years older than you and your girlfriend. I believe some ways you two are looking at things are a bit on the naive side.
First, the "in love" head over heals thing does not last. There are even scientists publishing papers to that effect, measuring it about a year's maximum. What does last is respect, trust, compatibility, and character. People who spend their lives together stay happy for those reasons and work at it.
Your girlfriend sounds immature. When I was your age I would have looked at your situation similarly. Having been there, survived, and moved on I can tell you that your life is worth 100,000 times more than this relatioship. I can guarantee you will be happen again if it ends and that you will find someone better.
Repairing a relationship is for people who have been together for a long time and have a lot of ties.
If that isn't there the best thing to do if someone cheats on you is to end it and save your dignity in the process. Like the Colonel said, when you look back you will be glad you did.
If she cheated on you it says something about her character and there are increased chances she will cheat on you again.
If you wait patiently until she "gets done" with her fling she will not respect you and you will not deserve it because you will be letting her walk all over you. As a person you deserve a minimum of respect and her ideas of having affairs and expecting partners to be cool about it violate so many levels of basic respect.
Go with the Colonel.
Remember:
1. You will get another job
2. You will get another girlfriend, probably a better one
3. You will be happy again, even tremendoulsy so
For the future, there is an old convention of not dating people you work with. It looks like you learned one of the reasons why you don't want to do this.
Take what you can of what people have told you and move on.
Nobody is going to give you advice on how to take being cheated on like a sport. You shouldn't.
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