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Originally Posted by robc  Jim wrote above that "he has to support you" and I don't agree with that. That's controlling & manipulative, no one has to do anything, he doesn't have to do anything for you and you have to realize you don't have to do anything for him. If you do things for him so that he will love you, trust you more and be with you, you need to realize that is controlling & manipulative: you're doing something to get something back from him. |
I don't necessarily think expecting a partner to support you is controlling and manipulative; perhaps it's just the wording. Not that they need to give give you anything or do anything... silent support would do fine. But if someone is shooting down your ideas and goals all the time it can be a problem
To me you've portrayed the guy as very self-centered and perhaps he is just used to his life being the central theme. Maybe he'll wake up and realize you're becoming more independent and adapt to it, maybe he won't.