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Originally Posted by Angela  Exactly. I wonder if 'until then' refers to the period of short term pain between when you say goodbye and you feel better, or if it refers to the period of time between now and you say goodbye.
If it's the latter, then you're not being honest with yourself -- in fact, it IS worth trying to make it work any longer, at least it is to you, because you're still in it. There's some sort of payoff you're getting by hanging around. And you're making that payoff, whatever it is, a higher priority than your partner's and even your own well-being. |
Sorry I wasn't more clear. I meant until we could actually separate financially and in space and time. I'm finsihed with this whole drama and am feeling no pain. In a short while he'll be gone and I am happy in that knowledge.
Whether I'll be able to repair friendships with the old friends now is another question. I introduced him to a work group I am a member of and he has ingratiated himself with everyone there and did some nasty damage by manipulating situations and pretending I was being very mean to him. The group president was quite upset with me for a long time and I had no clue why until she started saying things to me as advice that made absolutely no sense - LOL It's was like a twilight zone soap opera but it was my life for a little while. People actually began to treat me differently. LOL What a scene. He's a charmer - seemingly very sincere, honest, gracious helpful, generous, caring - he even cries on cue - but really, when looking at him now, I see him clearly for the user and manipulator he is. And I figure, if the old friends don't know me well enough to not believe everything they hear and the acts he puts on, without verifying things for themselves or asking me then they never knew me and aren't worth worrying about either.
Peace,
Lara