What a great post! I agree that women should date more before choosing to be in a relationship with someone. There are probably many reasons we don't. There's a biological tendancy to pick one person out of a group who seems like the most suitable mate. The initial attraction, chemistry and emotional connection helps us decide. And men, you can change how you act and cause a woman to be more attracted to you. There are textbooks on this stuff. Once we're dating that person, time with other people becomes less 'meaningful' we'd much rather be with the one person, put in the time with them, to make things the best they can be with them, why? Because if feels good! Feels great to be in a loving, exciting, fun, connected emotional place with another person!! So if you've already got one good one, why would you need more??? When that energy could be put into the one man who will most likely work out.... Then once we have sex, yes, that little 'I neeeed you' switch gets activated. That is biology, not choice.
Sex is supposed to activated the man's protective-provider hormones too by the way.
Keep in mind the man's biological clock is far slower than the woman's, it takes about a year for the man to start feeling as committed as the woman after starting to have sex.
So the way to get around this, as a woman is to fight your instincts, date more men at once, be casual, and don't have sex until you are ready to have that switch flipped.
We get the most deep fufillemnt from meaningful emotional connection with others. It's not about how society sees us in terms of sucessful or failed relatonships. It's just, that is what's most satisfying to us.
However, the idea of dating more people to find the best on with which to buiild the foundation, yes, that's very very good and very very true
Now, we know woman are supposed to be the 'selectors' in the dating game, as we have limited rescources, (eggs) but then with the biological clock difference between men and woman, it would seem that the men end up 'selecting' the woman they want, as they just don't get as serious as quickly, so they can be more rational about what they want.
What are your thoughts on that?
As an aside as a woman I'd love to have a career coach. That's what I want most right now, as that will fix my 'social status' so I can attract the right man and have better 'relationships'. lol.