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Originally Posted by Elrond  Selfishness is the only motive that exists. - IMO
Your friends motivation for calling you on your selfishness was most likely selfishness.
How do you define selfish/selfless?
Striking a balance between selfishness and selflesness can be tricky, and there are no golden rule on that as far as I know. What kind of ratio sounds logical to you, off the bat?
Find out if there is something that is desirable in what your friends would like more of from you. I'm not saying to be something you're not for them, but to see if there may be something that you resonate more with than your current state of being and expression.
IMO follow your own intuition and integrity when it comes to this, more than the opinions of other people. |
Thanks for your response. I guess I should say that one of these friends was reacting to something that I did that I definitely see was selfish... yet very convoluted. The other said it as a very general statement. I never have really seen myself as very selfish, but since I AM a human being I have the ability to act in such a way. I am not sure what a good ratio of selfishness to selflessness would be. Probably somewhere around 60% selflessness though. I am doing the best that I can with what I have and realize it is all I can do.I guess I have to just pay attention to my actions and go from there.