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Originally Posted by funchy  First off: IMO the message won't get you what you want. It's too forward and assumes an awful lot, and if she's as innocent as I'm imagining, it will put her off.
I'm not sure I understand your motives. You want to get laid and perhaps bragging rights that you got the 'cherry' of this hot girl? I could be wrong but it seems like you're not as interested in her as a girlfriend, yes?
Jill is an insecure, scared young lady. She values her virginity enough to hold onto it this long. But the fear of how scary the first time will be is wearing on her, so she's tempted to "just get it over with" and sleep with whoever. Clearly it means alot to her.
You asked our opinions. I'm a woman, and I can sympathize with what Jill is going through. I've got to be honest. As a woman I'm not sure I like your text or your intentions. Jill is waiting for the right moment and for the right guy to come along; someone who respects her and who won't make a scary moment even scarier. Forgive me for saying this, but it sounds like you're scheming a way to get her to put out for your own reasons and may not have her best interests at heart. Therefore you are the WRONG person to be asking her for it, and it's not justifiable with saying it's "helping her". (in my opinion at least-- others are welcome to disagree)
Your prowess in bed is not what a scared virgin girl needs. It won't mean anything to her, and your forwardness between the sheets may scare her further. You may also find youself quite disappointed in the experience, since it sounds like you are very experienced and she quite obviously is not.
This is a 'good' girl who sincerely sounds like she's waiting for a meaningful experience. If you want a good time, my advice is to hook up with someone else (i.e. someone who's been around the block). If you want a chance at a relationship, go call her and ask her out to dinner or drinks or something, and patiently see where it goes. It sounds like she's a wonderful young lady, and you might be missing out on a change at a great relationship by just rushing into things. |
Bragging rights is not part of my motivation. Of course I want to get laid, but I swear a large part of my motivation is for her first time to be with someone that at least cares that she's having a good time. If she gets drunk and has sex with some random guy, there's a chance he just won't give a **** whether she's okay with what's happening or not. I don't want that to happen.
When I mentioned that I might be "better than the average guy" what I meant is that I would make sure she was having a good time. Not because I'm good in bed, but because I care about her as a person. If I do send that note (which is seeming less and less likely) I'll make that more clear.