Understand that you depend on others to make you happy. If you understand that, then there is no need to be selfish.
Nobody is happy independent of others. We are all social creatures. We all require love and affection. You depend on others for laughter, affection, love, and others depend on you for the same, it is already equal and balanced.
Being openly selfish is a repelling trait because nobody wants to be taken advantage of. The balance of selfishness and selflessness is to never be either of those things. You cannot be selfless because it is the "right thing to do" acting as some sort of martyr. Being selfless should mean letting go of your ego and being align to the oneness and collective identity of all things but don't be selfless and lose your individuality.
Next time, try not to behave selfishly because it is detrimental to your own wellbeing, you will just be creating resistance from others. But promote the common good and everyone will want to help you succeed.
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