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Originally Posted by chihuahuaking88  ... and possibly how to deal with them, especially if they're someone you live with and love dearly? I'm exploring a recent development/realization in my life.  |
I found that having a real purpose independent of them helps a lot. So does being very clear about your boundaries and what you have to offer.
Secondly, I often become affected by them when I am lacking purpose in my daily activities. If you keep yourself focused on what you need rather than what they need, you can usually discover there are times when their demands are not so taxing on you. This is when you can be there as a lover or a friend.
On Steve's blog he talked about how for men relationships come second after your own development. Keep that in mind when you feel tortured and manipulated by your lovely "vampire" =)
Best of luck. Don't forget to get some exercise and clear your head of the bllodsucker at least once a day, it does wonders =)