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Parthon · 10-05-2008, 05:17 AM

I prefer "Love is an experience!"

I might have it wrong, but the underlying message is that women have a larger tendency to get attached to their relationship than men. (Men are probably too busy getting attached to their toys and stuff.

) Bad relationships can, and should, be terminated, but often they aren't, because like matt said, women see them as an investment, like building a house. A loser boyfriend though is like building a house on sinking sand, no matter how many bricks you put into it, even if it's a 5 story mansion, it's probably doomed to fail. There is the rare case of maybe, rarely, one in a billion style chance of fixing the foundation and in this case it would be fixing the guy. The problem with that though, is that you are trying to change someone else, which is almost impossible, and it's just easier to start with a better foundation by finding a better guy.

Women could benefit from a change in perspective if they are in these situations. They could see dating as a try before you buy system, and really get to know if a guy is a good foundation for a relationship. A woman who is good at dating could get to know a guy really well, and figure out if he's suitable for a long term partnership or not. I think lack of the right skills and scared of being alone stops them from doing this.

Also, if you think this is only about dating you are wrong, notice how most people do this about jobs as well. They aren't picky about which job they get. They stay in a job for long periods of time even though they hate it and walking away from a job is easy. Getting a job requires skills which noone really develops, but some people are just great at getting different jobs. Plus there are those people who have a new job every 3 months. The problem is not with the job, but with people getting attached to their job. It's how they end up working in fast food for 5+ years, because they can't move on. People are terrified of being jobless because of the lack of money, which is understandable, but when you move on you can get a job fairly easily, if you approach it right and use the right skills to get a new job.

Dating and relationships are almost the same in that regard. If you are stuck in a dead end relationship with no hope of promotion, then it's time to go to some interviews and see if you can get a better one perhaps?

10-05-2008, 05:17 AM	#11 (permalink)
Parthon Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Perth, Australia Posts: 1,532	I prefer "Love is an experience!" I might have it wrong, but the underlying message is that women have a larger tendency to get attached to their relationship than men. (Men are probably too busy getting attached to their toys and stuff. ) Bad relationships can, and should, be terminated, but often they aren't, because like matt said, women see them as an investment, like building a house. A loser boyfriend though is like building a house on sinking sand, no matter how many bricks you put into it, even if it's a 5 story mansion, it's probably doomed to fail. There is the rare case of maybe, rarely, one in a billion style chance of fixing the foundation and in this case it would be fixing the guy. The problem with that though, is that you are trying to change someone else, which is almost impossible, and it's just easier to start with a better foundation by finding a better guy. Women could benefit from a change in perspective if they are in these situations. They could see dating as a try before you buy system, and really get to know if a guy is a good foundation for a relationship. A woman who is good at dating could get to know a guy really well, and figure out if he's suitable for a long term partnership or not. I think lack of the right skills and scared of being alone stops them from doing this. Also, if you think this is only about dating you are wrong, notice how most people do this about jobs as well. They aren't picky about which job they get. They stay in a job for long periods of time even though they hate it and walking away from a job is easy. Getting a job requires skills which noone really develops, but some people are just great at getting different jobs. Plus there are those people who have a new job every 3 months. The problem is not with the job, but with people getting attached to their job. It's how they end up working in fast food for 5+ years, because they can't move on. People are terrified of being jobless because of the lack of money, which is understandable, but when you move on you can get a job fairly easily, if you approach it right and use the right skills to get a new job. Dating and relationships are almost the same in that regard. If you are stuck in a dead end relationship with no hope of promotion, then it's time to go to some interviews and see if you can get a better one perhaps?