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Firstly, its almost as if on a core level, they enjoy the drama. Even if the relationship sucks, there is something that fulfills a primal need for drama, and problem solving. They get addicted to the pain of the situation, or the pain of relationship problems.
Secondly, I'm a member of several forums, and one on dating, its weird how women tend to spend 80% of their time in the 'relationships' forum and only 20% on the dating forum. Women are intrigued by relationships on some level, and tend to focus more on improving their relationship or fixing it, than improving their dating skills.
There is almost like a core belief that finding the right guy is hard so you need to date anyone, and then improve it. Rather than dating loads more to increase your chances of finding the right one. Women seem to seek a cure rather than prevention. I really believe most relationship problems are caused by not dating enough.
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Mattpd!
You've made a sharp observation about gender differences, but I believe your conclusions could use some tweeking.
Women don't dig the drama any more than men do. The reason women focus so much on relationships and are always trying to solve problems with their friends/coworkers/boyfriends/husbands/family members is that
women very often judge themselves by the quality of relationships they have.
Women are "supposed" to be good at nurturing, helping people, being loving, all that stuff, so we are always trying to live up to this (unspoken) responsibility we have as women. That's why if a relationship is going down hill, the woman often feels out of control and desperate to fix it:
if her relationships fail, she's a failure. This is why women don't always leave losers. Any failed relationship undercuts her value as a woman.
I'm not sure if it's just how our society raises women to be, or if it's biological, or both; it may not be politically correct, but I believe it's true for most women.