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Originally Posted by sbdiane  I really want him to be happy, but he doesn't seem to want that for himself. I've been just trying to live my life as happily as I can, doing outdoors things without him, pursuing dreams and goals on my own. I hope some day he will join me in happiness, but without turning all codependent, I have no idea what to do. How can I help him? |
Here's how you can help him: stay in your own business and stop trying to change him. Accept him exactly as he is and exactly as he isn't, and choose to either stay in the relationship with this man exactly as he is and exactly as he isn't, or let him go. Right now, with your attachment to him being other than what he is, you are generating No Freedom for him and also for yourself! Set yourself free, and choose happiness for yourself if that's what you want to do, and grant him the freedom to choose his own way of being. Then stay or leave. But quit being such a bossy boots. (that actually might cheer him up.
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It's tough, I know; but not everyone chooses happiness, and it's not our job to say they *should.* Too bad we're not in charge, huh?
