Lots of guys are in your predicament forynav, and probably, a lot of them have it worse than you do.
I'm doing the 'desperately wanting love' thing too. It's not who I am, it doesn't define me, it's just a trip I get on, from time to time. Well, actually it's a lot of the time, but, it's still just a trip, it's not me.
When I say trip (I don't mean acid), it's like a pretend identity, just like being a womanizing playboy, is just an identity, it's not the real absolute YOU you.
Personally, I believe a major theme of life (if not the point of life itself), is to uncover this real absolute YOU you. I also believe it's quite possible to use the pain you're going through as a device, that helps you peal away the (false) layers.
Only when you come close to your true, unforced, core natrue, will you truely know love (and naturally attract someone else on that wave-length) for then you will have discovered the truth first-hand, that you ARE love.
Jamie.
