Well, she IS different from you and we are aware of the differences in people. You sound like me, thinking internally that I might accidentally offend some of my black friends because I was raised in a racist environment. I feel the same way if I hang out with relatives that have a lot more money than I do. Sooner or later the conversation is going to go in a direction where we have nothing in common.
It's not a problem if you are aware that she is different as long as you still love her and respect her. With some of my gay friends, we can talk about the love they have for their mate because I understand love. But if they want me to appreciate the sex appeal of someone of my same sex, that comment would not be welcome. I would consider it as insensitive to me as I would be to them in trying to get them to appreciate the attraction of some biceps or muscular thighs.
I've had to let gay male friends know I don't want to hear about their sex life even though I respect their relationship. I wouldn't want to hear the details of a straight friend's sex life either, though.
Are you sure you're not just afraid she or some of her friends might hit on you and that might be uncomfortable? Or that she might get the wrong idea from your acceptance? I've had that happen too. Because I didn't shun a girl like everyone else did, she developed a crush on me. I just ignored it in the same way I did when a man flirted too much. She got the idea that I wasn't interested and we stayed friends.
She knows you are different too. She has probably always known it because most people don't just turn gay overnight. She still loved you and you can still love her with the differences as long as you respect each other and still have enough things in common to warrant a friendship.
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