the thought 'why do they avoid me? why can't I keep a girl?' are probably getting in your way- if you're thinking it, you're probably suggesting it by quietly begging for affirmations and hints that she likes you. This is one of the quickest ways to drive off a woman. Somehow it subconsciously suggests that you don't consider yourself good enough for the girl, or that you're going to suffocate us, or something... much better to do the reverse- make us wonder a bit at first, be friendly and polite and flirtatious but not too serious; don't grope us but also don't be afraid to touch us when it feels right.
If you were coming off as 'just friends' they'd probably answer your calls and you just wouldn't get anywhere romantically; so I'd bet it is a matter of doing something that seems creepy/clingy/weird- too serious too quickly, or making her feel like you might want to buy her affection instead of deserve it. I'd suggest you do go look for female 'just friends', and practice treating them respectfully, as equals, and then ask for some dating advice once they get to know you.
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