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Originally Posted by jetpack  I'm also pretty bad at approaching new people. |
I used to be social phobic, but when I became more social, I found it much easier to meet new people and date.
So here's my suggestion. Stop worrying about dating, and instead focus on meeting new people. Men, women, whatever -- just practice making friends and enjoying people's company. Most successful romantic relationships start out as friends or friends of friends rather than meeting in some other way. Also, even more importantly, becoming a more social person makes you more attractive. It makes you easier to get to know, and that opens up many more opportunities for new relationships of all sorts -- romantic, friendships, even business.
I know it's hard to stop worrying about dating when that's the problem you're trying to solve, but in my experience it only works when you're not focused on it, because then you're perceived as desperate, which is a turnoff.
If instead you focus on genuinely enjoying people's company, people can get to know you without dating you, and that's a much more comfortable situation.
I hope this advice finds you well. (:
EDIT: Oops! I completely failed to respond to this:
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Originally Posted by jetpack In reality, I can't get past the rare first date and find it very difficult to meet or connect with men or women. |
What difficulties do you have? What obstacles do you find when you try to meet people or connect with them?