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jetpack · 10-03-2008, 08:04 PM

On paper, it seems like I should have it all. In reality, I can't get past the rare first date and find it very difficult to meet or connect with men or women.

Where I'm at in life: I'm in my mid 30's, single, maybe 6 or 7 in looks, run a very successful internet business, live in a big old house and am active and healthy. Career wise, I make many times what people in my area make, and do it 4HWW style. I live in a small town, am generally well liked, but do have a few close friends (who always seem busy with their own life).

However, on the relationship front, I haven't had a gf in 5 years. I've dated a few girls over the years, but can't keep them no matter how hard I try. I also have no idea why they leave, as they stop returning calls after 1st or 2nd date.

It's even harder to find dates in the first place. People my age are generally married with kids by now, and younger girls consider me quite old. I'm also pretty bad at approaching new people. All in all, nothing I've tried works, and I'm completely at a loss why.

I admit that I generally don't show my wealth, partly because I really don't want a girl to like me just for my money... However, I have no problem spending money with the right girl.

So, the question is, with the right amount of time and money and attitude what would you do in my position?

10-03-2008, 08:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
jetpack Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 49	I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong.. On paper, it seems like I should have it all. In reality, I can't get past the rare first date and find it very difficult to meet or connect with men or women. Where I'm at in life: I'm in my mid 30's, single, maybe 6 or 7 in looks, run a very successful internet business, live in a big old house and am active and healthy. Career wise, I make many times what people in my area make, and do it 4HWW style. I live in a small town, am generally well liked, but do have a few close friends (who always seem busy with their own life). However, on the relationship front, I haven't had a gf in 5 years. I've dated a few girls over the years, but can't keep them no matter how hard I try. I also have no idea why they leave, as they stop returning calls after 1st or 2nd date. It's even harder to find dates in the first place. People my age are generally married with kids by now, and younger girls consider me quite old. I'm also pretty bad at approaching new people. All in all, nothing I've tried works, and I'm completely at a loss why. I admit that I generally don't show my wealth, partly because I really don't want a girl to like me just for my money... However, I have no problem spending money with the right girl. So, the question is, with the right amount of time and money and attitude what would you do in my position?