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Praising appearance is a old line, and used by men with solely sexual intentions
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I don't want to belabor this point, but it really seems like you have your guard up pretty high against any sort of sexual neuances in the dance. Sexuality is a part of the dance. But that doesn't mean that it is the "sole" part of the dance. But it is a part, and I don't feel wrong for feeling that way.
There's nothing wrong with men having an appreciation for beauty. In fact, my appreciation for beauty extends pretty far, even into types that some people would consider, well, not pretty. But I see beauty quite easily. To compliment that is not an indication that my intentions are "solely sexual". Sometimes, a woman with issues about her waist is starved for a little attention. Getting it in some other area away from her waist feels good. She lights up. And it feels good to provide that.
Its as if you are saying "I am turned off by men who are attracted to me physically, because that just indicates thier intentions are solely sexual." Some men are after one-night stands. But please don't lump all men that compliment physical beauty into that category. The dance is pretty much the same for a man who wants a relationship as it is for a man who wants a one-night stand.
The problem is, the one-night stand kind of guys are good at the dance. That makes it hard for women to figure out who has good intentions and who doesn't. Use your intuition, it's usually right. But give 'em a chance, and don't judge thier intentions from thier openers.