Originally Posted by StarieEyed
"Women don't just go around freely having sex without the use of any contraceptives because they can "just" have an abortion, and anyone who believes this has a very dim view of women indeed."
UM YES YOU ARE WRONG. I've know PLENTY of women in the past 7 years who have had used NO protection just b/c they CAN get an abortion! One gal had something like 7! Another, 2. I think it really depends on your age and sex, I am a 25 y/o female so I've known many women to have abortions and many as "birth conrol." Then you have to wonder if these two free talk about it, how many are there that do it and DON'T talk about it?
I don't believe you for a moment. The only people who parrot this nonsense about women blithely choosing to have abortions because they're too irresponsible to use contraceptives are people who have NO understanding of what abortion is.
Abortion is SURGERY, for starters. Do you honestly believe a woman is going to think that having a surgical procedure (and yes I am aware of chemical abortions, but here I referring to the surgery) is preferable to taking a pill or using a diaphrahm, or having her partner wear a condom?
For that matter, abortion is expensive. Condoms are considerably cheaper.
Better still, abortion is not easy to get. Almost 90% of U.S. counties do NOT have abortion facilities. When you factor in all the constraints: the nearest abortion provider, the money it would cost to get one (which includes not only the cost of the procedure itself, but also possible travel expenses--gas, lodging, food--AND any money lost due to the time taken off work), and the fact that many areas have a narrow window of time--i.e. not after the 20th week, it is NOT nearly as simple as you want to believe.
So don't sit there and tell me that women choose to have abortions over using contraceptives out of laziness or whatever motive you ascribe to them. You obviously think that going in for an abortion is on par with stopping by the grocery store to buy a gallon of milk, and that's so far from the reality it's just sad.
All that aside, I strongly doubt you know a lot of women who choose abortions over contraceptive methods without very good reasons for doing so. Many women have problems with taking the pill. Many may have latex allergies. And, yes, in some cases, abortion may actually be cheaper for a woman. I have one friend who told me that her health insurance covered abortions, but not hormonal birth control. Go figure.
I repeat: women who have abortions in lieu of other forms of birth control fall into one of two categories: those who are genuinely ignorant about sex and reproduction in general, or who don't have access to protection (I used to live in an area where you had to be 18 or older to buy condoms, which makes the concept of safe sex difficult for horny teenagers), and those who have legitimate reasons for not using birth control. As for these women you supposedly know who go around irresponsibly having sex "just cuz" they can have abortions instead, I suspect that you either are getting your information from people OTHER than these women, or that they themselves are not telling you the full story. And given your judgmental attitude, if I had some underlying issue going on, I don't think I'd tell you the truth either. Especially the woman who supposedly has had seven abortions. You're fooling yourself if you think you're going to convince any reasonable person that she found having multiple abortions preferable to using protection.