Thanks mark.
But how is complimenting a girl's physical feature not an attempt to impress her? Or to impress yourself that you've made a girl feel good about herself so that she will think you're fun to be with?
Are you sure people can really say whatever they think is fun to strangers, fearless of any consequences?
Would you really approach a female stranger and compliment her that her boobs are large solely for the fun of the moment? (yes this is an extreme example.)
I have a experience once, where I rode a bus and sat next to a man who seemed to like me upon the first glimpse. He seemed friendly and easygoing as we started a conversation. The conversation evolved into topics on weather, tanning, and then moles. He used this chance to complimented my moles. And runs his fingers on my arms where there are moles like he's caressing. Then the conversation ended because he needed to get off the bus and we never met again.
Obviously that guy had his fun for the spur of the moment. I can only tell you that I can't feel the same fun he's having. I kept my smile, I didn't personally consider that a harassment, but still, I think it's a bit boring and weird.
This is what I mean by "unimpressed."
I speculate that in most cases, upon the first time meeting, people still expect some feedback and validation of how well of an image they project onto others. It takes time for most people to familiarize with each other in order to achieve the "just relax and simply enjoy in the present" state of mind.
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Originally Posted by Plato  What do you mean? |
What if your humor isn't good enough for her standards?