Personal Development for Smart People Forums - View Single Post

driven1 · 10-01-2008, 08:14 PM

Thanks for taking the time to write that. I'm checking out your blog -- not sure I'm on-board with the visualizations and affirmations, but I completely agree with the Outer Game as it relates to Inner Game (and I think it all boils down to self-esteem), so I'll give it a go.

I'm doing karaoke with my friends tonight, and we're surely make a splash. We always do. (But I get complacent and just hang out with my group, rather than mingling with the Others.) I'll make a concerted effort to pull at least 3 more cool people into my crew.

I read your thoughts on "Acting As If" on your blog, and like them a lot. I'd love to hear your thoughts on "Dressing the Part", as I feel I could do better here. On a scale of 1 - 10, I feel I'm around a 7 in this area.

Maybe too much info, but here's some background for ya:

My "part" is a bit muddled, fwiw, if I understand your usage of the word correctly. I make decent money (not a millionaire though) and I'm almost 40. But most people my age have families and aren't free to socialize regularly. So I end up hanging with the 20-25yo set mostly. I'm fortunate in that I look young for my age, and I'm in very good shape, so I actually fit in pretty well. My hobbies are generally high-adrenaline -- I race cars (hence the username), rock climb, snowboard, etc.

My normal dress is nice jeans (e.g., Diesel), a decent t-shirt (nothing "designer", but usually something with a travel destination I've visited), brown Rockports, and subtle jewelry (maybe a silver ring and a necklace). I don't wear a watch. I understand that I have to amp my outfit up and wear some flash for high energy environments -- e.g., dance clubs, parties, etc. If it's a bit nicer place, I'll wear an untucked collared shirt w/ sleeves rolled up. If it's low-key, I wear nice sandals.

Honestly, although this look works okay for me, I feel like I should take it a bit upscale, maybe dress more like a casual Pierce Brosnan or George Clooney. but I'm not sure where to start. I'm not a fashionista by any stretch, I hate shopping, and I don't feel like I have good sources of fashion inspiration.... so I welcome your input! Thanks!

(I'd upload a pic, but I really want to preserve my anonymity in case I need to ask questions or relate stories about people in my life.)

10-01-2008, 08:14 PM	#4 (permalink)
driven1 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 55	Thanks for taking the time to write that. I'm checking out your blog -- not sure I'm on-board with the visualizations and affirmations, but I completely agree with the Outer Game as it relates to Inner Game (and I think it all boils down to self-esteem), so I'll give it a go. I'm doing karaoke with my friends tonight, and we're surely make a splash. We always do. (But I get complacent and just hang out with my group, rather than mingling with the Others.) I'll make a concerted effort to pull at least 3 more cool people into my crew. I read your thoughts on "Acting As If" on your blog, and like them a lot. I'd love to hear your thoughts on "Dressing the Part", as I feel I could do better here. On a scale of 1 - 10, I feel I'm around a 7 in this area. Maybe too much info, but here's some background for ya: My "part" is a bit muddled, fwiw, if I understand your usage of the word correctly. I make decent money (not a millionaire though) and I'm almost 40. But most people my age have families and aren't free to socialize regularly. So I end up hanging with the 20-25yo set mostly. I'm fortunate in that I look young for my age, and I'm in very good shape, so I actually fit in pretty well. My hobbies are generally high-adrenaline -- I race cars (hence the username), rock climb, snowboard, etc. My normal dress is nice jeans (e.g., Diesel), a decent t-shirt (nothing "designer", but usually something with a travel destination I've visited), brown Rockports, and subtle jewelry (maybe a silver ring and a necklace). I don't wear a watch. I understand that I have to amp my outfit up and wear some flash for high energy environments -- e.g., dance clubs, parties, etc. If it's a bit nicer place, I'll wear an untucked collared shirt w/ sleeves rolled up. If it's low-key, I wear nice sandals. Honestly, although this look works okay for me, I feel like I should take it a bit upscale, maybe dress more like a casual Pierce Brosnan or George Clooney. but I'm not sure where to start. I'm not a fashionista by any stretch, I hate shopping, and I don't feel like I have good sources of fashion inspiration.... so I welcome your input! Thanks! (I'd upload a pic, but I really want to preserve my anonymity in case I need to ask questions or relate stories about people in my life.)