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Originally Posted by robc  Please don't tell me it would be no BIG DEAL.
You're married - I'm sure it would be a big deal if your wife told you she met a guy and had sex with him.
If it's not a big deal I can assume you're out there right now doing the same thing to her - please be honest. Your partner having sex with someone else while being married to you is a big deal.
If not, then why be married? |
Obviously you have the freedom to believe what you want, but what I said is the truth. While this isn't a widely accepted stance in our society, there are people other than me who feel this way.
Your assumption that I am "out there right now doing the same thing to her" is both right and wrong. I have not had sex with another woman in years. However, if I did, I would be open with my wife about it. She has the same views on this subject as I do. One example to illustrate this is that I went on camping trip alone this past weekend and she helped me pack. Before I left she told me that she packed some condoms, just in case I needed them.
Why am I married? Because that is what society told us we should do. If I had it to do over, I would probably not get married. This has nothing to do with my relationship with my wife, I just don't see the need to be pressured into a marriage because of societal, religious, family, etc pressures. If I wasn't married to my wife, we would still be in a long term relationship. I expect to spend my entire life with her, and that has nothing to do with us being married. I expect that I'll have sex with other women in the future, and she'll have sex with other men (or women) in the future. I see no reason for that to have a negative impact on our relationship. To be honest, knowing that I can be open and honest with her about these things has strengthened our relationship. I have no need to "cheat" on her to get sex, because I can have sex with another woman if/when I want without fear of her reaction.