I got married because my parents pressured me into it when I was "living in sin". And I had a wedding because my in-laws pressured me into it. (I wanted to elope, but MIL eloped and regretted it so I was strongly pressured to have a wedding.)
I probably still would have gotten married but I might have waited a bit longer and gotten a better legal framework in place first. I suspect that some pre-wedding legal family planning would have been a good idea.
I also see marriage as a financial arrangement. I took almost 5 years out of my career to devote my time to childcare and I am just now getting back into part-time work. Because of marriage, I know that half of everything that we've acquired in that time period is legally mine. I've also had insurance and benefits through his company due to our being married.
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