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Originally Posted by NightSpirit  Sorry to hear about what you're going through.
What has happened, more than just a sexual thing, is that you have found out something about his character that is not honest. For him to do this required that he be the kind of a person that is comfortable being involved with two women at once and being dishonest with at least one of them.
We all enjoy sex and attention. But what does that say about him, if the chance to experience something new was more important to him than being honest with you?
Any other reasons, a purely sexual thing, a problem with the relationship, is more of just an excuse and puts part of the blame on his gender or on you. Even if those were factors, wouldn't working through it with you instead of going to another person be what you would expect of a life partner?
How can the character of a person be fixed? He risked hurting you and possibly losing you, for what?
Yes, there are men that consider telling the truth to be important. To me, this is not about sex but honesty. If it were any other thing, any other pattern of lies, would you be trying to understand why in this way? |
Completely. I get everything you just posted. Thank you. And, no, if it were about any other pattern of lies, I wouldn't be trying to understand in this way. And, yes, the notion that he has been lying to me and misrepresenting who he is really, REALLY makes me uncomfortable.
I don't know how his character be fixed. And, it scares me to think that his character needs that kind of fixing because I've always seen him as one of the most evolved and authentic people I've ever met. So, I was deluded, apparently. Nice.
