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driven1 · 10-01-2008, 04:30 AM

Happy to start it off.

Real common one: I am TERRIBLE at approaching. AWFUL. I have great, social friends, my attraction "game" is very good, but I'm content to just sit there letting a cute girl check me out rather than go over and start talking to her. My internal dialog is something like: "It feels good to be admired, I'm just going to enjoy that -- and besides, she's enjoying herself with her friends. It would be rude to interrupt. And I'm having a great time with my own friends..." And needless to say, my COLD approaches generally blow -- usually some situational thing which goes nowhere. And even if it does, I usually fail to close; I don't even try. I'm still stuck, for the most part, in taking whatever girls approach ME (that I like).

Fortunately, I have a two amazing "connector" friends (my best friend and an awesome "mother hen" girl, just out of college) who provide me with a steady stream of college-aged girls at parties and other social gatherings. UN-fortunately, I'm almost 40 -- I'd rather date girls in their mid-upper 20s. Also, not to be mean, but most of those girls are overweight, which I don't find attractive, so I just keep 'em as friends. Occasionally, a good one will come along...

but, still, I feel like I'm being way too passive about this.

Actually, you know what: I would be completely content with just being able to pull new girls (and, for that matter, new cool guys) into my circle of friends... "stocking the pond", so to speak. And it's not all about me -- I want my friends to date cool people too. Plenty of girls I'd love to find great guys for!

I feel like I just need a push getting over this hump. I'm way too comfortable just chilling with my friends and taking whatever comes to me. FWIW, I've read and watched a good bit of PUA material (love David D, Mystery, and Tyler), so feel free to use that terminology with me. Also, I have an incredible wingman (one of my "connectors") who is always up for meeting new people.

The "newbie mission", approaching 100 women in a week or whatever it is, sounds worse than death to me. I'd rather fight Chuck Liddell. Twice.

Give me a kick. I wanna fly.

10-01-2008, 04:30 AM	#2 (permalink)
driven1 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 55	Happy to start it off. Real common one: I am TERRIBLE at approaching. AWFUL. I have great, social friends, my attraction "game" is very good, but I'm content to just sit there letting a cute girl check me out rather than go over and start talking to her. My internal dialog is something like: "It feels good to be admired, I'm just going to enjoy that -- and besides, she's enjoying herself with her friends. It would be rude to interrupt. And I'm having a great time with my own friends..." And needless to say, my COLD approaches generally blow -- usually some situational thing which goes nowhere. And even if it does, I usually fail to close; I don't even try. I'm still stuck, for the most part, in taking whatever girls approach ME (that I like). Fortunately, I have a two amazing "connector" friends (my best friend and an awesome "mother hen" girl, just out of college) who provide me with a steady stream of college-aged girls at parties and other social gatherings. UN-fortunately, I'm almost 40 -- I'd rather date girls in their mid-upper 20s. Also, not to be mean, but most of those girls are overweight, which I don't find attractive, so I just keep 'em as friends. Occasionally, a good one will come along... but, still, I feel like I'm being way too passive about this. Actually, you know what: I would be completely content with just being able to pull new girls (and, for that matter, new cool guys) into my circle of friends... "stocking the pond", so to speak. And it's not all about me -- I want my friends to date cool people too. Plenty of girls I'd love to find great guys for! I feel like I just need a push getting over this hump. I'm way too comfortable just chilling with my friends and taking whatever comes to me. FWIW, I've read and watched a good bit of PUA material (love David D, Mystery, and Tyler), so feel free to use that terminology with me. Also, I have an incredible wingman (one of my "connectors") who is always up for meeting new people. The "newbie mission", approaching 100 women in a week or whatever it is, sounds worse than death to me. I'd rather fight Chuck Liddell. Twice. Give me a kick. I wanna fly.