That's awesome advice. And, I'd been suspecting that a good majority of people will cheat at some point in their lives while in a serious relationship. Not sure how I feel about it yet. Still processing it. But, I appreciate the candid response. I think I'm more inclined to be upset about the lying than the actual cheating.
Go figure.
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Originally Posted by mattpd  Without giving advice yet, I love how people write about their relationship problems, this is how it goes:
I am dating this guy/girl and she is <insert amazing/wonderful/perfect/divine/beautiful/special/loving/caring> but <insert complete relationship killer - cheating/smelly feet or teeth/putting on weight/complete pain in the ass/etc etc>.
Its almost like the pain is representative of the difference between the good and the bad. The wider the gap the worse it is.
Anyway, yes people cheat.
Women tend to be better at it, but its about 60% in total of people will cheat at some stage in their lives while in a serious relationship.
I know from a male point of view that it can be hard to not cheat if you have the opportunity to. Even if you are dating the most amazing woman. Many men will deny this but its not real for them because they don't have the skills to pickup really attractive women quickly.
The key with cheating and the most founding principle of all is "people tend to do what feels good at the time". So because he cheated doesn't mean you are not good enough, or they is something wrong with you or the relationship, or there is something wrong with him, or all men are cheaters, its just simply that people tend to do what feels good at the time, and with sex and physical attraction we can tend not to really think about the consequences when we do it.
For me, if it bothered me, I'd break-up instantly, if it didn't I'd forget about it.
The last thing I'd do is sentence myself to months or years of doing my head in about it, trying to answer the "why" or trying to fix the relationship. its like a recipe for unhappiness. |