My personal opinion.
I taught dancing for a while to soon-to-be-married couples.
They brought in a song and over 4 or 6 lessons I taught them a routine to Tango, Waltz or Rumba to in front of their guests. I think I learned the most about relationships ever during this period.
This may sound completely cynical but maybe 1 out of 4, or 1 out of 5 even, couples were that amazing couple that seemed like they meant to be together. Communication, chemistry, the ability to have fun, and be happy together, and simply were a really good team.
The rest seemed like social pressure made them do it, or she really wanted to get married and he was just there at the time, or he was completely domineering and she was a push-over, or they were religious, or maybe they felt it was the right thing to do, or like I'm only guessing here, but I felt myself being extremely awful and guessing how long they'd be together.
So in my opinion if you are in the first category, if you met someone and you really hit it off, initial relationship period excluded, like if you are a golden couple, and its like completely amazing, then do it. Some people are magic together, and its just beautiful.
If you are in the second category, then I think don't do it. Which would cut marriage rates down my 80%, but who cares.
Also, people have a different viewpoint for success of marriage also. Some people think staying together and not getting divorced is success, and I disagree completely with that notion. Happiness is the only measurement of success in my opinion. Its a success if you are happy, single, married or in-between.
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