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TonyToneTone · 09-30-2008, 09:12 PM

drama07!!!

It is time to turn your life around!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm going to explain a few simple things to you and then give you some exercises to do to get yourself into mental shape. Just as if you were to do physical exercises, your body would become strong, doing these mental exercises will do the same for your mind and confidence.

First thing I would like to start with. Remember this formula, it's by self-help author, T. Harv Ecker. Your thoughts lead to your feelings, and your feelings lead to your actions which lead to your RESULTS.

Right now you have a negative self-image of yourself and this leads to negative self-talk which leads to negative actions (procrastinating on jobs, not talking to people, not expressing yourself clearly) which leads to negative results. We need to turn that around and the first thing we need to do is create a new IMAGE of you.

First EXERCISE:

I want you to RIGHT NOW, get out a piece of paper and write out your ideal you. List all of the qualities and attributes you would like yourself to have, REALLY BE SPECIFIC.

For example, write out:
"My Perfect Me"
Strong
Confident
Express myself clearly and confidently
Punctual
Friendly
Courageous
Strong
Dressed well
Happy
Joyful
In-shape
Excellent student

and list as MANY qualities as you would like. Then write out another image for your ideal life:
"My Perfect Life":
Great friends
Amazing relationships
Happy Family Life
Good grades (3.8 GPA)
In-great shape
Going to fun parties

and so on. Really BE SPECIFIC.

For the next thirty days, you are to spend a few minutes every morning visualizing your ideal you, and your ideal life. Really FEEL the feelings as if it were happening right now.

There are a couple reasons why I am having you do this. 1) Over 90% of what you do is subconscious. You drive to school the same way every day, brush your teeth the same way every day, do the same routine every day and so on. Right now your subconscious has a negative image of you so it needs to be retrained with one that is more positive. To retrain your subconscious you have to feed it images and thoughts of what you would like to happen. Your subconscious doesn't know what's real or false so if you feed it images of you being successful, it will go to work creating those.

2) I say FEEL the feelings of it happening right now for a couple reasons. One, the more emotion an image has, the faster it will become engrained in your subconscious and the faster your subconscious will go to work making it happen. Two, if you're into the Law of Attraction at all, by putting out that good feeling, you will attract more of that good into your life.

3) I say thirty days as you need this new image to become a part of you. You need to retrain yourself for success and as it usually takes about 30 days for a new habit to form, I want to give you ample time.

Now onto your self-talk.

09-30-2008, 09:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
TonyToneTone Family Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,040	drama07!!! It is time to turn your life around!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm going to explain a few simple things to you and then give you some exercises to do to get yourself into mental shape. Just as if you were to do physical exercises, your body would become strong, doing these mental exercises will do the same for your mind and confidence. First thing I would like to start with. Remember this formula, it's by self-help author, T. Harv Ecker. Your thoughts lead to your feelings, and your feelings lead to your actions which lead to your RESULTS. Right now you have a negative self-image of yourself and this leads to negative self-talk which leads to negative actions (procrastinating on jobs, not talking to people, not expressing yourself clearly) which leads to negative results. We need to turn that around and the first thing we need to do is create a new IMAGE of you. First EXERCISE: I want you to RIGHT NOW, get out a piece of paper and write out your ideal you. List all of the qualities and attributes you would like yourself to have, REALLY BE SPECIFIC. For example, write out: "My Perfect Me" Strong Confident Express myself clearly and confidently Punctual Friendly Courageous Strong Dressed well Happy Joyful In-shape Excellent student and list as MANY qualities as you would like. Then write out another image for your ideal life: "My Perfect Life": Great friends Amazing relationships Happy Family Life Good grades (3.8 GPA) In-great shape Going to fun parties and so on. Really BE SPECIFIC. For the next thirty days, you are to spend a few minutes every morning visualizing your ideal you, and your ideal life. Really FEEL the feelings as if it were happening right now. There are a couple reasons why I am having you do this. 1) Over 90% of what you do is subconscious. You drive to school the same way every day, brush your teeth the same way every day, do the same routine every day and so on. Right now your subconscious has a negative image of you so it needs to be retrained with one that is more positive. To retrain your subconscious you have to feed it images and thoughts of what you would like to happen. Your subconscious doesn't know what's real or false so if you feed it images of you being successful, it will go to work creating those. 2) I say FEEL the feelings of it happening right now for a couple reasons. One, the more emotion an image has, the faster it will become engrained in your subconscious and the faster your subconscious will go to work making it happen. Two, if you're into the Law of Attraction at all, by putting out that good feeling, you will attract more of that good into your life. 3) I say thirty days as you need this new image to become a part of you. You need to retrain yourself for success and as it usually takes about 30 days for a new habit to form, I want to give you ample time. Now onto your self-talk.