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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  My friends got married because they decided they want to spend the rest of their lives together (as I'm sure they will). |
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Originally Posted by ns123 If you see marriage as a social construct that shackles you, by all means, do not get married. If you see marriage as a loving commitment between you and another individual, as your commitment to support each other, be there for one another, no matter what, to feel more connected as a human being to another human being, well, marriage is right for you. |
I agree with both posters.
I got married because I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my husband. It may sound cliche, but I "just knew". My husband and I had a whirlwind romance, we were engaged 2 months after we met and married 4 months later. We have been married for almost 21 years (Feb). There have been ups and downs, but our commitment to each other never waivered. We are honestly more in love now than we were 20 years ago. We still hold hands, kiss each other hello/good-bye, tell each other "I love you" and we have a great sex life. Are we soul mates? That's subjective, but I know we are definitely life mates.
If you are questioning marriage, don't do it. If you don't think it will bring you joy, don't do it. You shouldn't let society force you into something you will be unhappy with. That is why divorce rates are so high, people feel they have to get married.
There is no guarantee that you will be happy in 2, 10 or 20 years. You have to do what is right for you, whether it is today or 10 years from now. Some people grow apart and some grow closer, but you will always learn great things from the experience.