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MissK · 09-30-2008, 05:36 PM

Outside of social conditioning, What were or would be your reasons to make such a vow- you may not be happy in 2, 10 or 20 years but feel like you have to keep trying to work it out because of a promise you made long ago at a completely different place of your life's development?

isn't it almost forcibly pulling your life down one path when had you not been married who knows what different places you might have gone and followed your heart? Is it security? if so, isn't having yourself, good family or friends or even long time lovers enough? Why make a vow that there is no way of looking into future to see if you want to keep it?

Or is it that as you get older and can basically see what kind of path your life is taking you are able to fit someone in that seems like they'll be on the same path for a while?

Is it just for children? I don't believe in one soul mate. I think people can deeply connect romantically with any number of choices if they are mature enough to know how to make relationships work. So why a particular one person? I ask on this board because from other less aware people you get less thought out knee jerk responses. Id like a perspective from those more conscious.

You can never really know. So why? If this life is about living in present moment, why make a contract for the future?

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MissK Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 41	Why do people get married? Outside of social conditioning, What were or would be your reasons to make such a vow- you may not be happy in 2, 10 or 20 years but feel like you have to keep trying to work it out because of a promise you made long ago at a completely different place of your life's development? isn't it almost forcibly pulling your life down one path when had you not been married who knows what different places you might have gone and followed your heart? Is it security? if so, isn't having yourself, good family or friends or even long time lovers enough? Why make a vow that there is no way of looking into future to see if you want to keep it? Or is it that as you get older and can basically see what kind of path your life is taking you are able to fit someone in that seems like they'll be on the same path for a while? Is it just for children? I don't believe in one soul mate. I think people can deeply connect romantically with any number of choices if they are mature enough to know how to make relationships work. So why a particular one person? I ask on this board because from other less aware people you get less thought out knee jerk responses. Id like a perspective from those more conscious. You can never really know. So why? If this life is about living in present moment, why make a contract for the future?