I think its a function of self-esteem in a way.
It kind of works like this, low self-esteem you tend to think about your mistakes a fair bit and focus on them and re-inforce them, high self-esteem you think about your successes, and what you learn and how you improved.
So its not a matter of making mistakes or not, we all make mistakes, its a matter of how you think about them, and what you take from them, e.g. embarrassment or a learning experience?
A few years ago I made a conscious decision to stop feeling the emotion 'guilt', my god it was wonderful! It was close to the best thing I have ever done.
If you look at religions almost all their methods to control are based upon guilt, its just a powerful way to lower people's level of consciousness and make people almost always ineffective. So its really funny these days if people try and guilt trip me, its completely ineffective.
Emotional freedom itself comes from freeing yourself from guilt, worry and fear, and I think that this plays a very strong part in your overall happiness. Guilt, worry and fear are pretty much completely pointless emotions, well, I tend to think so anyway.
If I have a bad memory its almost always good to change how your brain processes thinking about it. So if you feel guilt, worry or fear aim to turn it into a positive emotion, such as learning, taking action or feeling more experienced. So if I feel something that used to be recorded as fear I change that into taking action instead of it contributing to helplessness, or if I feel I guilt I immediately change it into "learning experience".
How you feel about yourself and your happiness comes down much to hwo you reference things...
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