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- and maybe it's a long reach to connect the two discussions, this one and the sexual frustrations discussions but hear me out on this and then let me know if I'm loopy or not.

Is it possible that too much sexual frustration has you analyzing yourself in every other part of your life? Not good enough for your wife to want to have regular physical intimacy, makes you second guess everything else. If someone who loves you has a hard time relating to you and being intimate with you, and that person is supposed to love you and be close to you, maybe your peers in other areas of your life find you lacking?

Sexual frustration will screw up the mind, make you think you're not good enough (if not consciously but on a subconscious level), in every aspect of your life. Everything will seem a little broken and you will feel unable and ineffectual to do anything to make changes to fix those things. And if that's the case and root of all these problems, that sucks because you're committed to your wife and won't be leaving your wife anytime soon and she probably won't be putting out regularly for you anytime soon either (unless of course things have changed in that other discussion and your wife has improved that area in your life - if so, that's awesome bro, I'm happy for you!!!!)

But if things haven't improved in that area of your life and you still feel rejected by your wife and aren't have physical "relations" on a regular basis, that is going to affect other areas of your life. Trust me it will. Being unsatisfied in one important area of your life will lead to issues in other areas. You can't isolate sections of your life, they're all related in their wondrous little ways. It sucks to be rejected especially when you get into a mindset that you think you deserve what you're asking for and still don't get it. You question yourself, your self-worth and value, your self-esteem drops down low and everything around you becomes a challenge and an affirmation that you're not "good enough".

If this really is the case, your wife doesn't know how much trouble she is causing you by limiting your sex life. I know you're religious, a strong christian and you have a lot of honor when it comes to keeping that committment to god & your wife strong in your heart but it seems that this problem won't go away, no matter how much you cover up your eyes & ears, it will still be there. That unresolved sex issue is like a big elephant that is uninvited but making your living room it's new home, it's always there, you can take it off your mind, no matter what you try to think about. You have to resolve that issue, find a way to fix it.

Again I said it was a bit of reach but I can see the connection, maybe other people can also?