Well, think of it the opposite way--Making no mistakes in a judgemental world.
In reality this is the kind of person who makes almost no mistakes, and then makes a big one and his peers see him do it. Two common reactions are:
High Standards: His friends/family/coworkers give him the disappointed glare. Taking your ability/work/skill for granted, as if you are supposed to perform at 100% all the time.
Jealousy: People believe you are somehow cheating, or they believe that your success comes from unfair means, or that you must be doing something illegal to be so excellent. Professional Athletes get this one a lot, for example.
It is important to not let complete strangers or people you don't respect all that much influence you, in any way. If the praise/criticism/judgement seems valid and comes from a valid source, you should accept it. You cut off someone on the highway unintentionally, and you feel bad. But it was unintentionally. You don't have to feel bad. You don't have to feel guilty. You choose to feel that way, probably almost automatically--maybe since you were a child?
Honestly, it seems to me that you have some unresolved issues with incompetence/screwing up/goofing up/making mistakes. You do NOT have to feel guilty. If you really have some limiting belief such as "I'm incompetent/a screw up," then you should try to see it for what it really is.
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