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robc · 09-29-2008, 06:43 PM

Allow yourself to make mistakes, learn from them and grow from them.

You're focusing on them to much, giving these mistakes too much power in your life and they in turn are running your life. Every move you make you have to over analyze, if I do this and screw up, someone is going to judge me and I'll like like I'm incompetent again... or something along that line.

Look at this way, you were the referee - how many other parents volunteered to perform that service? Probably not many - why? Along with inability to do that job, they don't have the guts to get in front of all those parents/people and players and make the tough calls which sometimes may not be correct.

It's a tough job, doesn't receive alot of thanks or praise yet everyone expects someone to do that job.

If people are going to be critical of you, let them, you can't control them or their actions or thoughts, you can only control what you do and how you react. If they want to act in a poor way, if they want to judge, let them, either way you can't control them - just control your reaction which would be to stop caring about what other people think about you.

Once you let go of that, you'll be be able to stop over-functioning and over-analyzing everything and you'll be able to do what you normally do without worrying about what another person thinks.

09-29-2008, 06:43 PM	#2 (permalink)
robc Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 298	you're over-functioning... Allow yourself to make mistakes, learn from them and grow from them. You're focusing on them to much, giving these mistakes too much power in your life and they in turn are running your life. Every move you make you have to over analyze, if I do this and screw up, someone is going to judge me and I'll like like I'm incompetent again... or something along that line. Look at this way, you were the referee - how many other parents volunteered to perform that service? Probably not many - why? Along with inability to do that job, they don't have the guts to get in front of all those parents/people and players and make the tough calls which sometimes may not be correct. It's a tough job, doesn't receive alot of thanks or praise yet everyone expects someone to do that job. If people are going to be critical of you, let them, you can't control them or their actions or thoughts, you can only control what you do and how you react. If they want to act in a poor way, if they want to judge, let them, either way you can't control them - just control your reaction which would be to stop caring about what other people think about you. Once you let go of that, you'll be be able to stop over-functioning and over-analyzing everything and you'll be able to do what you normally do without worrying about what another person thinks.