Is that all it's about inflow or outflow of energy?
That's kinda how I saw it too.
Thing is, it's natural to either have an inward or an outward flow of energy, at different times and in different situations. Sometimes, it will serve the person better to have an inflow, other times, it will serve them better to have an outflow of energy.
I also think, if you're in a weak position in life, or not quite established; it can be better to be more selfish. If you don't have much energy, it may not be wise to be giving what little you do have, away; conversely, if you are established and have some power in life; you can limit your potential by being selfish; so being selfless can be in your best interests.
Of course, I'd argue that ultimately, it isn't possible for any of us to be truely selfless; and if we think we're being selfless, we're ultimatley being selfless because it's in our own best interests to be that way.
As to the OP's question; personally, I think it's better to trust your own energy; it is the most true barometer of other peoples' energy and state of mind etc. Much better to trust your instinct, rather than what your eyes tell you..
Jamie.
