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Originally Posted by Sanity Panda  That's exactly what I'm talking about. Occasionally I've managed to connect to close friends when discussing our dreams, emotions and experiences. I can feel it.
However there's alot more times where you don't connect at all. You can be sharing matters close to the heart, but it doesn't feel like a bonding experience, it's just data.
It definitely appears to be a matter of perception. What made you come to the conclusion that it's about being disconnected with our emotions? |
Well, why wouldn't we be connected to the information that we're sharing? Because we don't want to be. We don't want the other person to know that these emotions, these communications, are actually connected with
us. We don't want them to know it because we don't want to know it ourselves. We think that feeling emotion is pain and weakness, but if we don't acknowledge the emotion then it can't hurt us and we aren't weak. So even when we talk about it, it's
an emotion, somebody else's emotion, an emotion disconnected from a body. We don't want anyone to know that we are sad, we don't even want to know ourselves if we are sad. We would rather ignore it or bury it, in an effort to not feel sad.
Unfortunately, it seems to extend to all emotions, not just negative ones. So being happy, acknowledging that we are truly happy, becomes just as anathema as conveying sadness or anger. We can use the words, but we can't let them carry any of the emotion from us.