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Pequod · 09-26-2008, 07:43 PM

Ok, so I get that you want more emotionally charged conversations instead of fact-based conversations.

Some idea's:
- talk about what interests you, preferrably with someone that also takes an interest in it (for example, if you like chess, then talk about it at your chess club)
- talk about what the other interests: his or her enthousiasm can be contagious
- work on your humour and spontaneity skills: I used to be painfully shy, but after I started to do improvisation my social skills skyrocketed. It does take some balls but it's well worth the effort!
- work on your self esteem. The best attitude is that anything you say is worthwile, not because the content of it, but because YOU are saying it.
- in your imagination, put a bubble of golden/white light around the two of you when you are talking. And you can intend that you will have a great conversation that is beneficial for both of you

I must say that I've noticed that a problem like this has usually a deeper rootcause, but you can start by trying these idea's (and that of others in this thread) and see how it goes. From the experience you gain from that, you can go further. Let us know how it goes!

09-26-2008, 07:43 PM	#7 (permalink)
Pequod Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 294	Ok, so I get that you want more emotionally charged conversations instead of fact-based conversations. Some idea's: - talk about what interests you, preferrably with someone that also takes an interest in it (for example, if you like chess, then talk about it at your chess club) - talk about what the other interests: his or her enthousiasm can be contagious - work on your humour and spontaneity skills: I used to be painfully shy, but after I started to do improvisation my social skills skyrocketed. It does take some balls but it's well worth the effort! - work on your self esteem. The best attitude is that anything you say is worthwile, not because the content of it, but because YOU are saying it. - in your imagination, put a bubble of golden/white light around the two of you when you are talking. And you can intend that you will have a great conversation that is beneficial for both of you I must say that I've noticed that a problem like this has usually a deeper rootcause, but you can start by trying these idea's (and that of others in this thread) and see how it goes. From the experience you gain from that, you can go further. Let us know how it goes! Last edited by Pequod; 09-26-2008 at 07:51 PM.