Maybe there is nothing wrong with you, but with your friends or the people you talk with. If you are a rational person and value conversational depth, then there is nothing to feel bad about. Did you ever ask yourself if people that are small talkers might be the "boring" ones exchanging platitudes.
However, if you want to make a conscious effort to expand your conversational range and learn to include emotional conversation, then go ahead. It may help you to start with listening. Real emotional listening, which means listen not only to the rational message, but listen to the emotional messasage. What does someone feel or want to feel when he tells you whatever he tells you.
Apart from listening, you can re-define the purpose of the social interaction you are about to enter. How about entering the interaction with the only focus being on having fun, or being playful, or being outrageous and silly.
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