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Sanity Panda · 09-26-2008, 04:29 PM

I need help removing some fears.

I've noticed that alot of my conversation revolves around the whole exchange of information, but there doesn't seem to be much of the emotional exchange. Even if I'm talking about things like feelings, values etc. You could say I chat in a serious manner...

I'm avoiding people because I can't cope with the idea that I'm rather bland when it comes to chatting. This belief is reinforced when conversations don't seem to flow, when I'm lacking material from the other person to work on or when they don't seem interested in asking me questions. It'd just be an information exchange.

I also get the impression that it's mostly my fault for not having a flowing conversation. I'm failing to engage the other member in an emotional way that makes people want to talk. Joy, laughter and happiness.

09-26-2008, 04:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sanity Panda Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 268	Fear of social exchange I need help removing some fears. I've noticed that alot of my conversation revolves around the whole exchange of information, but there doesn't seem to be much of the emotional exchange. Even if I'm talking about things like feelings, values etc. You could say I chat in a serious manner... I'm avoiding people because I can't cope with the idea that I'm rather bland when it comes to chatting. This belief is reinforced when conversations don't seem to flow, when I'm lacking material from the other person to work on or when they don't seem interested in asking me questions. It'd just be an information exchange. I also get the impression that it's mostly my fault for not having a flowing conversation. I'm failing to engage the other member in an emotional way that makes people want to talk. Joy, laughter and happiness.