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Originally Posted by hotwired  Thanks Impaul99 - I thank you for taking so much time and thought to answer my questions. Let me go back now and narrow down a couple of my questions.
1. As far as the "my space" question, I was referring to a situation where say, I was "worrying" about my child, loving her so much that I worried about losing her or something negative happening to her. My understanding is that I cannot "attract" anything into "her" experience. Now of course, I can say or act out things, that, if she "takes on", may lead HER to say, think or do things that attract the experience of "something negative happening" into her space, correct?? NOW, that being said, how does "prayer for others" fit in. In other words, let's say I have an "intention" to be perfectly healthy. That's fine, though I might reword it to mean more to me, or be more believable by me, BUT let's say someone I love has some horrible disease. My understanding is that I cannot "intend" for them to be perfectly healthy. BUT it feels right to say a prayer like "Please God, allow them to be ok, healthy, etc. etc." - Can you comment on this? |
Uhm, this is a good question. I do not have children yet, but I have sometimes thought about the concept of a parent losing a child and the sheer pain of it would seem unbearable. You concern is that your "worrying" which all parents do, to varying degrees, could manifest in negative ways in your child's life, correct? Although I think your child will probably manifest her own events, I think what you need to be careful here is two things:
1) Your child taking on your worries and fears and then manifesting using them. For example, if you did something rediculous like ask your child every single day after school "Hey, did you get beatup by bullies today? Because you're not a tough kid, and besides I taught you better than to fight, and there are a lot of bullies out there, so tell me if you get beatup, did you get beatup?"
You might, or might not manifest bullies into their life, but if you're programming them with that kind of thinking it will be THEM that manifest bullies into their life. For example on the way to school they will start thinking "Bullies, my mom/dad keep talking about bullies, I wonder what will happen if I get attack by bullies. I'm not a strong kid they say, so I'll probably get beat up..." etc.
This is just one example, but you can imagine what I'm talking about. I can also give you a real world example. When I was in Jr. High School I knew a kid who ALWAYS got beatup by bullies. The amazing thing was that he fricken attracted it like crazy! He was like totally looking for it almost, like he was supposed to get beatup. I'm not saying that because I'm saying he deserved it, I'm saying it because I felt sorry for the guy so I actually started hanging out with him at lunch and after school and it's like all of a sudden walking home from school the same way I have been walking for months is no longer safe when this kid is around. It's like he's a bully magnet and they seem to sprout out of nowhere to pick on him, call him names, push him around, etc.
See, for me, I was kind of lucky, because as a little kid I had an older brother 4 years older than me who always used to fight with me, since he was bigger. Because of this I wasn't afraid of fighting people my size or up to 4 years bigger. Because of this, I didn't eminate fear of physical harm so I didn't attract it. I did get into some fights when I was really young, but I always ended up fighting back enough to hurt the bullies so they leave me alone and went picking on another kid who's weaker. In the later years, people just didn't pick fights with me because they saw in my eyes that I wasn't afraid to fight (at least that's what I think). In either case, althought I was teased verbally like any other kid in school, I never got beatup like many kids you hear about.
One thing I know about the few kids in school that got beatup is that they were TOTALLY babied by their parents. Like, one day I asked one guy if he could make me a copy of a tape for me because he had a double-cassette player, and the tape was SNAP (Power, Rhythm is a Dancer, remember them?). Anyways, he said he couldn't do it because his mom would never allow him to listen to "Gangster Rap" like that. I was shocked. "Gangster Rap"??? SNAP?! This was when the kid was like 16 years old. SNAP is about as "gangster rap" as Milli Vanilli. Anyways, parent's have their rules, and I respect that, but if you're sending your 16 year old kid to school with a HE-MAN lunch box while you sit at home biting your nails that he might "Join a Gang", chances are he'll probably get beat up.
So, to summarize... be conscious about the worry you project to your kids. I think they need to be made aware of the dangers of the world, but not obsessed with them. The more they think about them out of a state of fear, the more they will manifest them. Your kids take on a lot of your beliefs and your fears as well, so be careful there.
2) Don't forget about yourself as well. For example, if you're worried about your child getting killed by a car hitting them for example so you absolutely obsess about them crossing the street every day, not only are you putting that fear into them, but also don't forget that you are also visualizing something for yourself. Like for example if you're saying these kinds of things to yourself:
"I don't know what I would do if something would happen to you!"
"I would just die if you got hit by a car!"
"Are you wearing clean underwear? Because if you get hit by a car and go to the hospital, I would be so embarrased if you didn't change your underwear."
(ok that last one was just for fun.)
But do you see what I mean? In these cases you're actually manifesting your own state. It's like visualizing yourself in great pain and agony because one of your children got hurt somehow. What do you think will happen if you obsess and visualize that every day? You'll probably create it, one way or another.
How to avoid this?
I don't fully know. As I said, I am not a parent yet, so take my advice with a grain of salt or two, but one thing I have done because I have actually had the fear of lets say someone breaking into my house when I've got children and attacking us for example. It's a rather irrational fear as that kind of thing never happens where I live, but it was still something I thought about on a few occasions and I didn't want to manifest it. So, what I did is I manifested an opportunity to learn a martial arts style that teaches realistic self-defence (non-sport based like Karate or Tae Kwon Do for example). As I train in my martial art, my fears of someone attacking my family have significantly diminished. It doesn't mean I'm not prepared, I'm just not scared of it as much anymore and thus I know I'll have a much lower chance of manifesting it.
What does this mean? It means that it might be a good idea to take inventory of your fears and work on overcoming them, as otherwise, I think our fears become our children's fears. Blessing them with our DNA is one thing, but why curse them with our fears?
