Originally Posted by amixa
if they feel trapped in their lives it may because they honestly can't,
.... I do not doubt that they are honest ....
but what they may not realize is because of underlying emotions they did not know they had to deal with/afraid to deal with/how to deal with.
... I am only saying that the trap is also in their own heads. Therefore the solution is for them to do something to their own heads.
I would not say that it is easy. It really depends on a range of factors. It could be very easy for me to change my thoughts about a certain matter, but very difficult for me to change my thoughts about another kind of matter.
However, many people will never even get that far, because they do not even see that the problem usually lies in their heads, and that the solution therefore lies in their own heads.
If a person does not even see that, he won't even explore the possibility of changing his own thoughts.
By the way, Bob knows all my stories (like I know his). He also knows that this particular soldier who shot himself .... killed someone else first (a planned murder) and then killed himself immediately thereafter.