all the advice is great so far.
But to build on it, confidence is definitly the key!
If you feel shy and anxious about it, you will feel uncomfortable in your social interactions right? And that vibe will usually transfer to the person your having the interaction with, and it will be an uncomfortable, awkward interaction.
If you feel confident, you create an interaction with positive energy.
So feeling confident is MUCH easier said than done. But not caring about what other people think of you is the best place to start. This is the mindset that you need to have: "I am a great person, and I have alot to offer. If someone is going to judge me and dislike me because of my appearance, then it is THEIR loss." Moreover somone who is going to judge you by your looks probably won't be feeling too great about themselves anyway! Everytime you stat feeling anxious, just think that mindset and FEEL it.
Another good thing you can do is, make a joke about it. Don't make it really obvious, but just drop something on the side. Basically it shows that if you can laugh about it, you're not sensitive about it. Loving yourself/accepting yourself 'warts and all' TAKES BALLS. In other words, self acceptance = confidence.
Even if you joke about it and you do feel sensetive about it, pretend that you don't care.. and eventually you won't. You'll reprogram yourself just by saying it out loud. And by persuading others that you're okay with yourself, then you will be ok with yourself!
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