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Boreas · 09-15-2008, 09:55 PM

I find some of the worst emotional pain in my life comes from personal shame. Times I have reasoned myself into doing wrong and then had it shown back to me in all its grotesque form.

Things like lying to people, doing other things on work time, downloading copy-writed music. It all seems fine, till one gets caught, then it is a punch to the gut, and I think the most painful part is the personal shame, the fact that everyone is looking at what you have done, and that you are now going to have to pay for it...

How does everyone cope with shame? Do you stop it from flaring up? Or accept it and do the best you can to fix things?

09-15-2008, 09:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
Boreas Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 353	Shame I find some of the worst emotional pain in my life comes from personal shame. Times I have reasoned myself into doing wrong and then had it shown back to me in all its grotesque form. Things like lying to people, doing other things on work time, downloading copy-writed music. It all seems fine, till one gets caught, then it is a punch to the gut, and I think the most painful part is the personal shame, the fact that everyone is looking at what you have done, and that you are now going to have to pay for it... How does everyone cope with shame? Do you stop it from flaring up? Or accept it and do the best you can to fix things?