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WayToTwilight · 12-18-2006, 06:14 AM

Hi One Free Man,

Hopefully you have waded through all the great posts before me and gotten to mine!

Anyways, I was (and still am a lot of times) like you. I was always depressed and wanted people to like me. For a while I wanted people to like me out of pity. I felt like my situation was completely out of my control and I wanted others to lift me up, and give me encouragement. Some people gave me encouragement, some gave me looks of disdain. When I got encouragement, I thought they weren't being sincere. When people reacted negatively I fed on that and just put myself down more.

Eventually I began to realize that I was doing this to myself. For a while I had kept denying it. I felt like I wasn't in control, and I was too worthless to do anything even if I did have control. I just continued to feed myself negativity, it felt... like the right thing to do. I was about 14 when I was very depressed. I smothered that depression with video games all throughout high school and depression set in for the first year and a half for college again. But with the help of a couple close friends and Steve's website I could see there was light somewhere in my darkness.

I can see a bit of light shining in your darkness too. The fact that you came upon this forum... to find help... it's like others have said before me, there is something in you that's telling you ARE worth it. You know something needs to be changed. The best thing I think you can do now is find as much support as possible. I know all these posts might sound cliche and we're all saying it "out of pity" but not really. Many of us know where you're coming from. The teen years were turbulent for me, and as a young adult they still often are. No one wants to see someone so depressed all the time. Please take our advice as genuine, we want to see you happy!

First... I would say, find some people to give you support. Talk to your parents, if they still tell you to "get over it," find some good friends. Find some real friends that will listen to you, that will reciprocate, that will encourage you. If you can't find any, make some! At the very least you have us, and you can keep coming back to us for more support. This community has grown... it's huge... you'll always find someone here with open arms and an open heart. We're all friends here.

It may take time to feel better, but don't let that daunt you. The time is going to pass anyways right, so why not start spending it by focusing on the good things? Don't forget, you'll always have a place here. You're not alone.

12-18-2006, 06:14 AM	#35 (permalink)
WayToTwilight Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 60	Hi One Free Man, Hopefully you have waded through all the great posts before me and gotten to mine! Anyways, I was (and still am a lot of times) like you. I was always depressed and wanted people to like me. For a while I wanted people to like me out of pity. I felt like my situation was completely out of my control and I wanted others to lift me up, and give me encouragement. Some people gave me encouragement, some gave me looks of disdain. When I got encouragement, I thought they weren't being sincere. When people reacted negatively I fed on that and just put myself down more. Eventually I began to realize that I was doing this to myself. For a while I had kept denying it. I felt like I wasn't in control, and I was too worthless to do anything even if I did have control. I just continued to feed myself negativity, it felt... like the right thing to do. I was about 14 when I was very depressed. I smothered that depression with video games all throughout high school and depression set in for the first year and a half for college again. But with the help of a couple close friends and Steve's website I could see there was light somewhere in my darkness. I can see a bit of light shining in your darkness too. The fact that you came upon this forum... to find help... it's like others have said before me, there is something in you that's telling you ARE worth it. You know something needs to be changed. The best thing I think you can do now is find as much support as possible. I know all these posts might sound cliche and we're all saying it "out of pity" but not really. Many of us know where you're coming from. The teen years were turbulent for me, and as a young adult they still often are. No one wants to see someone so depressed all the time. Please take our advice as genuine, we want to see you happy! First... I would say, find some people to give you support. Talk to your parents, if they still tell you to "get over it," find some good friends. Find some real friends that will listen to you, that will reciprocate, that will encourage you. If you can't find any, make some! At the very least you have us, and you can keep coming back to us for more support. This community has grown... it's huge... you'll always find someone here with open arms and an open heart. We're all friends here. It may take time to feel better, but don't let that daunt you. The time is going to pass anyways right, so why not start spending it by focusing on the good things? Don't forget, you'll always have a place here. You're not alone.