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blueyedathena · 09-11-2008, 12:50 AM

So mattpd and ar81 thank you for confirming what I believed to be true. As in any story there is more to this one the I have the fortitude to type out online. Suffice to say that over the past two years I have tried everything from supporting him in everything he does to giving him room to breathe to forcing him into jobs whether he wants them or not and I just cannot do it anymore. Okay I take that back I am sure that I am capable of continuing this same song and dance for the rest of my life but I choose not to.

I went out and found a new home for one of the three cats we had left today and will find homes for the others, thank GOD that we did not have any children that I need to try and re-arrange. At this point I just want it to all be done but well that means going through that evil D word and parting company. Knowing that it is all for the better however does not make it any easier but well my state government does if we can both agree that we should be divorced and agree on how the assets should be divided (which should be easy since I don't want anything that I did not walk in in with) it could be done (legally speaking) in less then a month. However do I just let him run out his deadline and tell him that it is over and good luck with all that you have accomplished. Or do I tell him sooner, such as before our wedding anniversary this weekend, you know it is supposed to be less painful when you do it quicker, like a band aid.

09-11-2008, 12:50 AM	#26 (permalink)
blueyedathena Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2	thank you So mattpd and ar81 thank you for confirming what I believed to be true. As in any story there is more to this one the I have the fortitude to type out online. Suffice to say that over the past two years I have tried everything from supporting him in everything he does to giving him room to breathe to forcing him into jobs whether he wants them or not and I just cannot do it anymore. Okay I take that back I am sure that I am capable of continuing this same song and dance for the rest of my life but I choose not to. I went out and found a new home for one of the three cats we had left today and will find homes for the others, thank GOD that we did not have any children that I need to try and re-arrange. At this point I just want it to all be done but well that means going through that evil D word and parting company. Knowing that it is all for the better however does not make it any easier but well my state government does if we can both agree that we should be divorced and agree on how the assets should be divided (which should be easy since I don't want anything that I did not walk in in with) it could be done (legally speaking) in less then a month. However do I just let him run out his deadline and tell him that it is over and good luck with all that you have accomplished. Or do I tell him sooner, such as before our wedding anniversary this weekend, you know it is supposed to be less painful when you do it quicker, like a band aid.