Hi, folks. I started a simple address book in the back of my planner.
I had a friend who finally e-mailed yesterday in reply to my semi-urgent call (a month ago or so), citing work pressure and deadline as reason for her delayed response. Normally I might have felt upset with her late response, but I partially applaud her (I'm still a bit annoyed
) for focusing on her own needs for a time while brushing aside others.
Now I wonder whether we should count no response against people (even myself). No response could mean: they forgot, they are too busy (and you're not a top priority), they don't wish to connect, or they change their minds about connecting with you. In the past, I usually respond to people quickly (and spend way too much time on e-mail, for instance) because psychologically I see quick response time as an indication of reliability (part of my upbringing, I guess). I do want to be seen as someone who's reliable - perhaps this is one of the roots of my problem. How do I break out of this mind set?